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Okay, honestly, leaders should not need to tell me to cross my legs. They should LEAD me into it. I mean, honestly. Of course i technically know how to do an ocho cortado. Of course, i technically know how to do a sacada. Of course i technically know how to do a molinete. But seriously man, if you give me crappy leads to work on, how the hell am i supposed to know that you're leading me into a different step than what i'm performing? Yes we've learned it in class together, but the fact still remains, if your body is telling me to do something else, then dude, that's what i'm going to do.

If you're trying to lead me into an ocho cortado and can't get my legs to cross, then maybe, just MAYBE, you're doing it wrong. Ever thought of that? I swear, sometimes men take things too technically that they forget to observe how the body reacts to these tiny changes that they make.

I have this one dude basically opening up his embrace, tossing me to his side, neglects to change my weight and expects my legs to just magically cross when he pulls me back because, well, 1,2,3,4, those were the steps to an ocho cortado that he learned in some tango class.

this is so frustrating!
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