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Egos

I have been shifting focus internally all over the place recently. Sometimes I wish this conscious incompetence would just go away for a while, so I can shut up the critic in my head that seems to have gotten louder the more I dance.

Are you balanced?
Did you embellish to that quaver?
Why is your rotation on the left so weak?
Knees keep banging into the guy!
Ochos not feeling supported!
Don't hang off him!
Disassociate damnit!

Left toes also feeling a lot more pain recently. Hello bunions, you can go away now please.

Looking forward to KLTF.

Had a quick discussion about egos in Tango as I am getting irked by certain people because of this. The ones who think they are "the shit" and where they can barely acknowledge the people who supported them from the start, thinking that they were the only ones responsible for their current outcome. Bullshit.

Which only serves to remind myself never to turn into them (at the risk of course, of going the opposite way and thinking I can never dance properly anymore). I have never been one who accepts criticism easily and can turn very defensive/offensive as a result of it, but maybe it's just acknowledging that there is no "#1" place in Tango, unlike a 50m freestyle race. There are, however, moments where you do feel like "#1", e.g. where you are the only dancer with a few years of experience in a class full of beginners. But that is a seriously unlevel playing field. Trouble is, we like to compare our worst moments with others curated best, and this is where the unhappiness and missing satisfactions obviously stems from.

Being a beginner, you are forgiven, being a few years in, you are not.

Or perhaps it is best to just return back to Mr J's (tango zero) statement. "Don't worry about them, they are too absorbed in their own ego's anyway", :).

Miss Vitosh. 

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